Plan How To Change Your Life Forever

    I’m going to talk about the way I looked at the next few years of my life, more specifically the ways I planned it all. I’m not saying that my ‘to do’ list is going to be the same as yours but I will say that there is a method you can use (exactly like I did) to see what your short (and long) term future could look be. I will say at this point that if you want to understand how I got to this point then go back and read my earlier blogs about How to earn money quick and where to begin? 

 

Now the answer to how exactly to go about planning a life different to your day-to-day routine is both the easiest question you’ve ever been asked and the most difficult. the funny thing is, we all know and we’ve all been asked it…

 

Alan Watts made a speech that i can never forget,  I’ll let you decide what to make of it…

 

(Click here to hear the speech yourself in a new window)

 

 

 

“So I always ask the question: What would you like to do if money were no object? How would you really enjoy spending your life? Well it’s so amazing as the result of our kind of educational system, crowds of students say ‘Well, we’d like to be painters, we’d like to be poets, we’d like to be writers’ But as everybody knows you can’t earn any money that way! Another person says ‘Well I’d like to live an out-of-door’s life and ride horses.’ I said ‘You wanna teach in a riding school?’


Let’s go through with it. What do you want to do? When we finally got down to something which the individual says he really wants to do I will say to him ‘You do that! And forget the money!’ Because if you say that getting the money is the most important thing you will spend your life completely wasting your time! You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living – that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing! Which is stupid! Better to have a short life that is full of which you like doing then a long life spent in a miserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you are doing – it doesn’t really matter what it is – you can eventually become a master of it. It’s the only way of becoming the master of something, to be really with it. And then you will be able to get a good fee for whatever it is. So don’t worry too much, somebody is interested in everything. Anything you can be interested in, you’ll find others who are.

 

 

But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like in order to go on spending things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like and to teach our children to follow the same track. See, what we are doing is we are bringing up children and educating to live the same sort of lives we are living. In order they may justify themselves and find satisfaction in life by bringing up their children to bring up their children to do the same thing. So it’s all wretch and no vomit – it never gets there! And so therefore it’s so important to consider this question

 

 

What do I desire?” 

 

 

 

 

    Upon hearing this for the first time the words struck a chord within me. I think this is true for a lot of people. His words simply make sense. What he talks about makes sense. The best thing is he is telling you that you don’t need some magic potion to be happy, you don’t need the money or the education. All you NEED is already possessed by you – the clarity of mind to sit down and think to yourself ‘what do i enjoy’



    I did just that, i thought about everything from if a university degree would make me happy, or if I wanted to become a teacher, if I loved film enough to try to make a career in that… In the end I wrote a list. I sat down and wrote a list of things I want to do. now these were not all sensible, they were not all practical and they definitely were not all going to change the world but nether-the-less I wrote down things like…



see the sunrise and sunset in the same day.

Fire a big gun

play a song on guitar

live in another country

sing in public





    My list is not finished (and may never be) but the important thing to me was I could see them. I could look at this piece of paper and see goals to head toward. You want to know how to plan a life changing future for yourself? Start by asking yourself exactly what you want in life, if you do that then it will not matter if its boring, stupid or completely insane because its YOURS. If you can write 5 things today that you would love to do tomorrow and end up doing one of them because of it then its WORTH DOING.

 

Try and prove me wrong.






    There we have it. I had the drive and passion to leave my day-to-day life. I was earning the money I needed to leave and I had a list of things I wanted. Time to take a leap of faith…



 

The first Step To A New Life

    Rat Race. Look it up on IMDB. It’s a comedy film about a race across america and the winner gets a cash prize. It is by no means a spectacular film (although I still enjoy the end theme by Smash mouth) but its the title that caught my attention. Rat race, It describes, in a somewhat derogatory way, the struggle of everyday life in our culture. To quote another film “working jobs you hate to but shit you don’t need” the endless cycle of working to pay the bills, to survive, to spend your life in the same place and be content doing so, maybe aiming (at most) for the next promotion… Far from the hollywood-esc ideal of shooting for the stars and living ‘the dream’. Were always asked as children ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ as if anything is truly possible and little joe bloggs can grow up to be a billionaire-genius-astronaut-ice-cream-man when sadly (for the vast majority of people) its un-realistic to even strife toward a fraction of this adulthood.

    If this is the case, and were destined to be stuck in the ‘rat race’, it is, as far as i can see, only out of our own choosing! The people who will be remembered forever were not content with a ‘normal’ life. Every single moment of every single day each person on this planet has a choice, whether large or small, important or not or maybe just the choice to wear a smile or a frown it is these moments that make up your lifetime and ultimately guide you where your future is headed.

    You must have heard of the butterfly effect right? That concept intrigues me. The idea that each event (however small) can have a huge effect on everything that happens after it. It works too! think back to one event in your life that changed a lot. Maybe your wedding day or your first child or your first kiss, now think of what must have happened for that event to occur. If you woke up 5 minutes later on june the 5th 1996 maybe you’d have never met your future wife. That is definitely one way of looking at the line I wrote down two and a half years  ago ‘creating elegance through chaos’

    Anyway, I digress. I am supposed to be talking about how after I made a decision to leave england it came to be….

    One step at a time is the only way to begin an epic journey and here I was, about to make my first step. Co-incidentally finding my first obstacle. Money. Money is where 90% of people give up.

“i cant leave my job, how would i survive”

“some of us have bills to pay!”

“i just can’t afford to go away for 1, 2 even 3 years”

    Money is huge to us, especially in England. The things we buy are expensive and the things we save up for are luxury. When I really sat down and looked at the figures of this trip I was astonished. The flight alone was more money then I could afford to spend. Heres what I did…

    I said to myself, this IS what im going to do. I can plan to earn as much as possible before I go, I can factor in certain monitory boosts along the way but WHATEVER happens I will do this.

    I was determined. Determination is a powerful thing. I’ve always read in quotes how ‘you can do anything if you put your mind to it’ and maybe that’s not true for everything in the world but there’s a hell of a lot you can do if your willing to stick at it! My first step was a second job. Now I already worked in a school at the time, one of the finest special needs schools in England, the pay wasn’t great but the perks of the job more than compensated for that. (On a side note if anyone is bored with retail and wants to try their hand at something new… try volunteering one day a week in a school. I learnt more there in 3 years then I did throughout my teenage. I also was on a salary which means I was paid even when on school holiday which in summer is 6 weeks. not too bad at all!)

    As I was saying the first step for me was to work two jobs. I made up my mind in the morning that I would print off a new CV. I spent the morning walking around town handing it in and talking to managers and that evening I had a second job. Remember I spoke of determination? Well to all those who think ‘there’s no jobs out there’ you are simply not trying hard enough.

(Here’s me looking particularly haggard whilst working my second job, I like this picture because I remember taking it, and I remember how I felt at that specific moment. I can look at it now and feel grateful I’m not there)

So i was bringing home two wages every month. That was a huge boost to my confidence about the future. I knew at the time that I would be tired and exhausted from the mental drain of school days and the physical drain of retail work but I knew it wouldn’t be forever and the money I could afford to save at this point would greatly improve my future chances to succeed.

     I have now taken you on the first step with me. The second step was something altogether different. Something I’d never done before, and for it id have to get sick….